I’ve found that relationships feel more natural when they’re built on mutual respect and real understanding. Respect, to me, means showing care without assumptions or expectations. And understanding goes beyond listening—it’s about fully engaging with what someone shares and uncovering the whole picture.

There’s a core to everything, and I’m always drawn to find it. But getting there isn’t always easy—there are layers, distractions, and sometimes noise that obscure what’s really there. I’ve noticed that many people stay at the surface, using phrases like “feeling heard” without really reflecting on what that means. For me, feeling heard means understanding not just the words, but the experience behind them. I know that sitting with those layers can be uncomfortable, and some people prefer to move forward quickly rather than engage at that level.

My autism gives me a unique way of connecting. When I’m listening, I’m not just hearing words—I immerse myself fully. It’s like stepping into their shoes, seeing what they saw, and feeling what they felt. I can visualize their story from scratch, building it in my mind as if I were living it myself. Details matter—every piece adds depth to the picture I create. That’s why I ask so many questions—not to overwhelm, but to fill in the gaps and make sure I understand their experience from their point of view.

This level of connection can be unexpected. Not everyone is comfortable being seen that clearly, and my questions can sometimes make people feel uneasy. But my goal isn’t to push—it’s to connect. Whether someone is ready for that kind of depth or not, I respect where they are.

Personal space is also essential to me. It’s not about keeping my distance—it’s about taking the time I need to reflect, recharge, and come back fully present. When others honor that space, it shows trust. I give that trust back, without making assumptions about what others need, knowing that everyone balances themselves differently.

When disagreements arise, I’m not focused on being right. I care about us walking away with a better understanding of each other. Emotional intelligence helps me stay grounded, so I can respond thoughtfully instead of reacting impulsively. With that awareness, even tough conversations can open new doors.

Boundaries aren’t about control—they’re about creating space for authenticity. When I ask for transparency, it’s not about managing anyone—it’s because openness fosters trust and allows for meaningful interactions. I want connections to feel real, not just polite or convenient.

The way we honor each other’s boundaries shapes the kind of connection we can create. Boundaries open doors for trust, for deeper conversations, and for the kind of growth that makes relationships meaningful. They let me show up as myself and give others that same freedom. When we meet each other in that space of respect and understanding, life moves more smoothly, leaving room for genuine connection to take root and thrive.